- Introduction I Cor. 9:25-27
- Ex. Bike Riding.
Mountains where I lived Loose Gravel. Desire for Speed! Awesome
Speed! No desire for breaks!
Bleeding knees, head, elbows, hands, thorns, rocks in your
Handlebars twisted sideways, damaged rims
- Eventual knowledge that a
loss of major thrillage
is not as painful as a torn up body. Self Control is
- In Life, we have bumps, ramps, corners,
loose gravel we are going to encounter. Sometimes we are going to have to give up
pleasures in the name of self control.
- Considering self control Issues in our
- When we focus on
self-control, we often think with regret about
- Times when we were younger
- Words said rashly
- Flaring of Temper Doors to replace
- Time not spend wisely
- Preparing ourselves for being on our own
- Stupid behaviors
- Physical Desires wish first kiss was to spouse
- Today, focusing on
self-control, we may think about
- Same Issues
- New Issues
- Spending problems
- Food Consumption Issues
- Lack of Exercise Issues
- Percentage of American's who own running
shoes but don't run: 87%
- Patience with our spouse and Children
- Poor Choices regarding our Media intake
- Inability to focus on the commands of
- Who has Self Control
Issues? Are they all sinful issues?
- Anytime we do not control
our lives in a godly manner, we have self control issues.
- Does not have to be a habit
or an addiction.
- May be a one time issue
That one instance of lack of control may lead to irreparable harm.
- Note: Not all
self-control issues are sinful, but all sins are self control issues.
- We have all
sinned and come short of the glory of God Rom.
- Why do we think about
our self-control problems?
- Working Definition
of Self Control:
Suppressing a specific behavior, emotion, or impulse in order to achieve something
perceived as better.
- We realize there
is something better than what we are engaged in.
- Better to feel confident
about finances than constantly worried.
- Peace and calmness is better than blasting
tempers in a home.
- What motivates our behaviors?
- We are motivated
by avoiding pain (The something better is less pain)
- Acts 24:24-25
Felix sent Paul away fearing pain of consequences of lack of self control.
- Mat. 13:41-42
Weeping and gnashing of teeth.
Self control issues almost left him a leper.
- Israel Self control issues
led to their destruction There example is a motivator for us!
- We are motivated
by the Presence of Joy (The something better is more Joy)
- Acts 24:26
Felix had control over his fear so that he could seek out the joy of riches.
- I Cor. 9:25
Runners of Isthmian games had control for Joy of a crown or wreath of celery
- I Cor. 9:25
Paul had control for the joy of a heavenly crown.
- II Pet.
1:5-7 What Cause?
Verse 4 That is eternal life with God!
That is the presence of Joy!
- What are the sources of our motivation
for our behaviors? Self, Others, & God.
- Self I am willing
to face the consequences. They only affect me. Nothing else matters.
- Mat. 19:16-22
Source of the young Rich Mans motivation was his personal pleasure and pain.
- Behavior Choice: Follow Christ or Not Follow Christ
- Follow Christ?
- Pain Motivation: give up riches,
from which he obtained pleasure.
- Pleasure Motivation: was eternal
life, which if he did not have would cause pain.
- Others If I
choose a course of action, others will be affected. The impact on them is of
- Exodus 1:8-11
Israel enslaved for own protection and labor.
- Exodus chps. 5-14
Source of Pharoahs motivation was his nations pleasure and pain.
- Behavior Choice: Release the people of Israel or Keep them as slaves.
- Release Israel?
- Pain M: Pharoah would lose a
massive body of servants which gave the nation pleasure.
- Pleasure Motivation: His
people would no longer be plagued, but the loss would cause pain.
4. Continually, Pharoah chose to
experience the pain of enslaving Israel based on Nations Desires.
- God When I make
decisions. God is deeply affected. The impact on God is of concern.
- I Samuel 24:1-7
David was concerned about Gods reaction.
- Behavior Choice: Kill Saul or Avoid Saul
- Pain Motivation: Pain to God by
Sauls death, but no disobedient king would give pleasure.
- Pleasure Motivation: God pleased His
anointed lives, but Sauls disobedience would give pain.
- David chose to avoid saul and let him live
based on the pleasure it would Give God.
- We Know then
- All men suffer from self
- We try to control ourselves in order to
achieve something better.
- Pain and pleasure motivate our behaviors.
- The sources of our motivations are Self,
Others, and God.
V. God has established the order of
importance for the source of our motivations.
- 10 Commandments
God First, Others Second
- What is the greatest
commandment of the law?
- Matt. 22:36-40
God First, Others Second
Any other order than
God first, presents a self control problem, like the rich young man and Pharoah.
VI. Why do we engage in undesirable
Behavior? 2 Reasons:
Many folks do not understand the spiritual blessings that come in Christ.
- (Acts 3:17-19; Acts
- Paul persecuting Christians is an example
- Ignorance, requires repentance.
- Ignorance is one reason men lack self
- Hardened Heart
- (Mar. 6:52, Mar. 8:17
Men still thinking physically)
- David with Bathsheba
is another example of a hardened heart.
- Hardening our Hearts
and not putting God first results in undesirable Behavior.
VII. Can we learn self
- Ex. You can train a
dog. You can train a child. Yes, you can train yourself as well.
- Phi 4:13 - I
can do all things in him that strengtheneth me.
- Col 3:1-2 - If then
ye were raised together with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is,
seated on the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things that are above, not on the
things that are upon the earth.
- Identify the goal
Is the goal worth
it? If the behavior involves sin, the goal is eternal life. The
presence of Joy!
Perfection Consult Experts
- What did Jesus Do?
- Cast out hindrances
- Cast out entanglements
- What did Paul say and do? (I Cor. 9:25)
- Buffet body
- Put body under bondage
- Paul did not run in circles
- He did not beat the air
- Each punch counted
- How do we biblically punch?
- The only offensive weapon we have
The Sword Eph. 6:17
- Each punch is focused on extinguishing evil
and spreading good.
- Dedication /
- Isthmian games
Proof of 10 Months Training and took an Oath.
- 2 Tim. 3:1-5
AVOID! Turn away from those without self control
- Execute by
focusing on the sources of our motivations in proper order
- GOD OTHERS
- Give control over
- Mat. 5:3
Blessed are the poor in spirit
- Mat. 5:5
Blessed are the meek
a. This involves identifying goal,
imitating perfection, focusing on God.
- This is dedication and Execution.
- God is for you
- 1Co 10:13 - There
hath no temptation taken you but such as man can bear: but God is faithful, who will not
suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation make also
the way of escape, that ye may be able to endure it.
- 2Ti 1:7 - For
God gave us not a spirit of fearfulness; but of power and love and discipline.
- Gal 5:22-23 - But
the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness,
faithfulness, meekness, self-control; against such there is no law.
Has Given us the gift of Self Control so that we may achieve something better.
You accept His Gift Today?